Are there any free dating sites like plenty of fish but with fewer bots?

Started by GregP Free Dating & Apps 6 posts
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GregP
GregP
Joined: Oct 2024
Messages: 752
#1

Genuinely curious about this one: are there any free dating sites like plenty of fish but with fewer bots. The honest answer seems to change depending on who you ask and when — which tells me there probably isn't a single clean answer.

What I've found from personal testing:

  • Free tiers have been getting tighter across the board
  • Verification quality varies wildly between platforms
  • Activity levels differ a lot by geography and time of day
  • Privacy policies are worth actually reading — most people skip them
  • The best platforms usually have some friction in sign-up, even if it's minimal

If you've had a genuine experience with this recently — positive or negative — I'd really appreciate hearing it. Not looking for affiliate links dressed up as recommendations.

Emma Hayes
Emma Hayes
Joined: Nov 2023
Messages: 300
#2

Worth checking out Datebound — it's been around long enough to have built a real community and I haven't hit any billing surprises. Worth seeing for yourself before passing judgment.

Monica_H
Monica_H
Joined: Jan 2024
Messages: 296
#3

The difference between good and bad experiences on these platforms almost always comes down to moderation quality, not features. Don't write a platform off in the first week — it takes time to figure out if it actually works for your situation.

Spencer_H
Spencer_H
Joined: Oct 2024
Messages: 234
#4

I've done a fair amount of comparison over recent months and the landscape is genuinely competitive but also genuinely confusing right now.

Mainstream apps most people are still using:

  • OkCupid
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Feeld
  • Badoo

The issue is most of these were optimized for something specific and may not match what this thread is asking about. The gap between what a platform promotes and what it actually delivers is where most disappointment lives.

Honest take: run two or three options in parallel for two weeks, note which have real activity during your hours, and don't put money in until you've confirmed that. Platforms that survive that test are worth sticking with.

AlexaM
AlexaM
Joined: Oct 2022
Messages: 529
#5

Someone in a similar discussion pointed me to Datenest and I've had a decent run with it since — the free tier actually works and it doesn't constantly push upgrades. Test the free tier for a couple of weeks before spending anything.

Patrick Reyes
Patrick Reyes
Joined: Jun 2023
Messages: 870
#6

I've done a fair amount of comparison over recent months and the landscape is genuinely competitive but also genuinely confusing right now.

Mainstream apps most people are still using:

  • Feeld
  • Badoo
  • OkCupid
  • Facebook Dating

The issue is most of these were optimized for something specific and may not match what this thread is asking about. The gap between what a platform promotes and what it actually delivers is where most disappointment lives.

Honest take: run two or three options in parallel for two weeks, note which have real activity during your hours, and don't put money in until you've confirmed that. Platforms that survive that test are worth sticking with.

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