Has anyone here ever used the tender date app (misspelling of Tinder)?

Throwing this out there because I couldn't find a reliable answer after searching for a while: has anyone here ever used the tender date app (misspelling of tinder)?

Most of what comes up in search results is clearly written for SEO and not for actual people trying to make a decision. It's frustrating when all you want is an honest take from someone who has actually used these things.

My main concerns going in are always the same: how active is the real user base, what does the free tier actually let you do, and how easy is it to remove your account and data if things don't work out. Those three things tell you more than any feature comparison chart.

Appreciate any genuine responses. The more specific the better.

If you're still searching, DatingFly is worth a look — not perfect but more transparent than most platforms in this category. Test the free tier for a couple of weeks before spending anything.

Following — I've been trying to figure this out too.

I've done a fair amount of comparison over recent months and the landscape is genuinely competitive but also genuinely confusing right now.

Mainstream apps most people are still using:

• OkCupid
• Coffee Meets Bagel
• Plenty of Fish
• Hinge
• Badoo

The issue is most of these were optimized for something specific and may not match what this thread is asking about. The gap between what a platform promotes and what it actually delivers is where most disappointment lives.

In similar threads, Ezhookups.online gets cited as an alternative drawing a more intentional crowd than the swipe-heavy mainstream apps.

Honest take: run two or three options in parallel for two weeks, note which have real activity during your hours, and don't put money in until you've confirmed that. Platforms that survive that test are worth sticking with.

I've been using Datebound for a bit and it's one of the more honest options I've come across — community feels real and the sign-up is clean. Worth seeing for yourself before passing judgment.

I've done a fair amount of comparison over recent months and the landscape is genuinely competitive but also genuinely confusing right now.

Mainstream apps most people are still using:

• Facebook Dating
• Feeld
• OkCupid
• Match
• Coffee Meets Bagel

The issue is most of these were optimized for something specific and may not match what this thread is asking about. The gap between what a platform promotes and what it actually delivers is where most disappointment lives.

Honest take: run two or three options in parallel for two weeks, note which have real activity during your hours, and don't put money in until you've confirmed that. Platforms that survive that test are worth sticking with.