Has anyone used alt friendfinder?

Curious where people land on anyone used alt friendfinder, because I keep getting told two opposite things. I do not need a feature list on friendfinder — I need to know about the payoff.

I am coming at this from the sites people keep naming, so adjust if that changes your answer. The thing people underrate about friendfinder is how much the effort-to-result ratio depends on your own city.

Specifically, on friendfinder I would like to know:

• Photos with other people in them do worse on friendfinder than you would guess
• Test the payoff on friendfinder deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
• Do not pay to fix the payoff on friendfinder; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause

Anyone with a recent anyone used alt friendfinder story, please jump in.

Reading this back, my friendfinder notes say almost the same thing about the effort-to-result ratio. Most of the noise about friendfinder comes from people measuring the effort-to-result ratio over far too short a window.

The pattern I see with friendfinder is that the effort-to-result ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. I judge friendfinder by one thing now: whether the return on the hours improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Take that as one data point on friendfinder rather than a recommendation.

If you want a second data point on friendfinder, Datebound is the one I run alongside it.

Building on what Samantha Griffin said about friendfinder, seconding this, because on friendfinder the honest answer is that the effort-to-result ratio varies enormously by area.

What changed my results on friendfinder was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

I would argue the opposite on friendfinder: actually getting anywhere is the one thing it handles better than the options here. The pattern I see with friendfinder is that actually getting anywhere is fine early and degrades as you go.

I judge friendfinder by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. What changed my results on friendfinder was treating the payoff as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

People also mention datelink.online, datenest.site, datedesire.online whenever friendfinder comes up on this board.

Reading this back, my friendfinder notes say almost the same thing about the payoff.

I keep two accounts running to compare the effort-to-result ratio across the sites people keep naming, and friendfinder sits mid-table. Whatever you pick, judge friendfinder on the return on the hours after a month rather than after a weekend.

For contrast with friendfinder I would look at Datenest; the free tier there behaves differently.

Ava Sullivan put the friendfinder case better than I would have, though same experience on friendfinder: I gave it six weeks before the return on the hours got tiresome.

Honestly, the time it costs was less of a problem on friendfinder than the sheer time it ate. Whatever you pick, judge friendfinder on the effort-to-result ratio after a month rather than after a weekend.

Not my read at all: for the crowd on this board, friendfinder was the only thing that produced anything. The pattern I see with friendfinder is that the payoff is fine early and degrades as you go.

What changed my results on friendfinder was treating the effort-to-result ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. You can work around the payoff on friendfinder, but you have to be deliberate about it.

I read Bella Cooper's reply on friendfinder and agreed, although with friendfinder I would frame the time it costs as a symptom rather than the cause. I judge friendfinder by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

For regulars here, the friendfinder experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else. That is my read on friendfinder, and others here clearly disagree.