How do I stop getting notifications from the bagels dating app?

Been quietly reading for a while, but stop getting notifications from the bagels dating app is the thing I actually need an answer on. actually getting anywhere is what makes or breaks notifications for me.

I have about a month of using free dating apps behind me and not much to show for it. Honestly, the hours-to-dates ratio was less of a problem on notifications than the sheer time it ate.

What would actually help me judge notifications:

• Photos with other people in them do worse on notifications than you would guess
• Test the time it costs on notifications deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
• Do not pay to fix the hours-to-dates ratio on notifications; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; notifications activity is nothing like flat

I will report back on stop getting notifications from the bagels dating app once I have tried whatever gets recommended.

I read Monica_H's reply on notifications and that has not been my experience of notifications, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread. You can work around the time it costs on notifications, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Most of the noise about notifications comes from people measuring actually getting anywhere over far too short a window. What changed my results on notifications was treating the return on the hours as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. That is my read on notifications, and others here clearly disagree.

Names that come up repeatedly in notifications threads: datebie.online, ezhookups.online.

Vanessa M and I've clearly used notifications differently, because that feels too harsh on notifications, given the payoff is a problem across no-payment dating sites rather than specific to it. I judge notifications by one thing now: whether the hours-to-dates ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

What changed my results on notifications was treating the hours-to-dates ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. You can work around the hours-to-dates ratio on notifications, but you have to be deliberate about it. Nobody warns you that the payoff on notifications scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Not my read at all: for most people in this thread, notifications was the only thing that produced anything.

Nobody warns you that the return on the hours on notifications scales with how many people are online at your hours. What changed my results on notifications was treating the effort-to-result ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

I read SophieR's reply on notifications and i would argue the opposite on notifications: the payoff is the one thing it handles better than the free end of the market. I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across the free-tier sites, and notifications sits mid-table.

The pattern I see with notifications is that actually getting anywhere is fine early and degrades as you go. Happy to answer follow-ups on notifications if that helps.

Agreed, although with notifications I would frame the payoff as a symptom rather than the cause.

The pattern I see with notifications is that the time it costs is fine early and degrades as you go. Take that as one data point on notifications rather than a recommendation.

That has not been my experience of notifications, and I have used it longer than most people in this thread. If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with notifications, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Most of the noise about notifications comes from people measuring the payoff over far too short a window. I keep two accounts running to compare the time it costs across no-payment dating sites, and notifications sits mid-table. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with notifications, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

For contrast with notifications I would look at Flurrydate; the free tier there behaves differently.

Seconding this, because on notifications the honest answer is that the hours-to-dates ratio varies enormously by area.

I judge notifications by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

This matches what I found with notifications, where the payoff is exactly where it falls down.

You can work around the payoff on notifications, but you have to be deliberate about it.

I will push back here, because notifications worked fine for me and the payoff was never the issue. There is no version of notifications where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something.

There is no version of notifications where the effort-to-result ratio sorts itself out without you doing something. The pattern I see with notifications is that the payoff is fine early and degrades as you go.

Reading this back, my notifications notes say almost the same thing about actually getting anywhere. Honestly, the payoff was less of a problem on notifications than the sheer time it ate.

The pattern I see with notifications is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. I keep two accounts running to compare the hours-to-dates ratio across free dating apps, and notifications sits mid-table. Whatever you pick, judge notifications on the hours-to-dates ratio after a month rather than after a weekend.

That feels too harsh on notifications, given the payoff is a problem across free dating apps rather than specific to it.

I judge notifications by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

Worth a look alongside notifications: Rendate, if only to see how differently the hours-to-dates ratio can be handled.