In your experience, what are the best dating sites for men?

Signed up specifically to ask about in your experience, what are the best dating sites for men. Hoping for something on dating sites more useful than a top-ten list. the hours-to-dates ratio is what makes or breaks dating sites for me.

For context I am mostly comparing the free-tier sites rather than anything niche. If the payoff is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Concretely, for dating sites:

• Do not move off dating sites into private messaging until the hours-to-dates ratio looks handled
• Compare dating sites against the free end of the market on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless
• Check what dating sites does about the payoff before you upload anything you would not want indexed

Blunt answers on in your experience, what are the best dating sites for men preferred over polite ones.

Building on what NathanW said about dating sites, not my read at all: for people who have actually tried it, dating sites was the only thing that produced anything. For most of us posting here, the dating sites experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else.

What changed my results on dating sites was treating the hours-to-dates ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Either way, the time it costs is the thing I would test first on dating sites.

Disagree, because blaming the time it costs lets you off the hook — my dating sites results improved when my profile did.

Honestly, actually getting anywhere was less of a problem on dating sites than the sheer time it ate. If the effort-to-result ratio is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Somebody in another dating sites thread pointed me at Datebound and it held up better than expected on the effort-to-result ratio.

Disagree, because blaming the payoff lets you off the hook — my dating sites results improved when my profile did. If the time it costs is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

There is no version of dating sites where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something. I judge dating sites by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

Seconding this, because on dating sites the honest answer is that the return on the hours varies enormously by area.

There is no version of dating sites where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something.

My dating sites baseline these days is DatingFly, mostly because actually getting anywhere is measurable there.

That feels too harsh on dating sites, given the effort-to-result ratio is a problem across free dating apps rather than specific to it.

The pattern I see with dating sites is that the time it costs is fine early and degrades as you go. That is my read on dating sites, and others here clearly disagree.

Respectfully no — complaints about the payoff on dating sites usually come from people who gave it a week. You can work around the time it costs on dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

The pattern I see with dating sites is that the effort-to-result ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Your dating sites results will vary by city more than by platform.

I read Diane_KY's reply on dating sites and disagree, because blaming the effort-to-result ratio lets you off the hook — my dating sites results improved when my profile did. There is no version of dating sites where the hours-to-dates ratio sorts itself out without you doing something.

For the crowd on this board, the dating sites experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else. Take that as one data point on dating sites rather than a recommendation.

One smaller option worth comparing on the return on the hours is Souldate — different pool, same free messaging as dating sites.