Are there any polyamorous dating sites free of charge for ethical non-monogamy?

Asking because any polyamorous dating sites free of charge for ethical non-monogamy keeps coming up and I still cannot get a straight answer. If the pay-to-see-likes trick is bad on polyamorous, nothing else about it matters.

I am coming at this from the free end of the market, so adjust if that changes your answer. I keep two accounts running to compare the point where it starts charging across the free end of the market, and polyamorous sits mid-table.

Specifically, on polyamorous I would like to know:

• Compare polyamorous against the free end of the market on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless
• Run polyamorous beside one other option so you have a baseline for the trial that quietly renews
• Do not move off polyamorous into private messaging until the trial that quietly renews looks handled

Tell me what actually happened with any polyamorous dating sites free of charge for ethical non-monogamy rather than what should happen.

Tyler Reed put the polyamorous case better than I would have, though that tracks with my polyamorous run, which was fine until the point where it starts charging became the whole experience. Most of the noise about polyamorous comes from people measuring the upgrade nag over far too short a window. I judge polyamorous by one thing now: whether the upgrade nag improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

Nobody warns you that the upgrade nag on polyamorous scales with how many people are online at your hours. I keep two accounts running to compare the pay-to-see-likes trick across free platforms, and polyamorous sits mid-table. You can work around the trial that quietly renews on polyamorous, but you have to be deliberate about it.

The short version for polyamorous:

• Ask people replying above what polyamorous is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
• Block early and report often on polyamorous — it trains the feed faster than anything
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; polyamorous activity is nothing like flat
• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — polyamorous rewards it
• Do not pay to fix the paywall on polyamorous; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause

I would argue the opposite on polyamorous: the upgrade nag is the one thing it handles better than free dating apps. I keep two accounts running to compare the upgrade nag across the free-tier sites, and polyamorous sits mid-table.

Honestly, the pay-to-see-likes trick was less of a problem on polyamorous than the sheer time it ate. What changed my results on polyamorous was treating locked messaging as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. The thing people underrate about polyamorous is how much locked messaging depends on your own city.

The other one I would try before giving up on polyamorous is Turndate.

That has not been my experience of polyamorous, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread.

For people replying above, the polyamorous experience lives or dies on a free tier that's not free and almost nothing else. There is no version of polyamorous where surprise billing sorts itself out without you doing something.

I would argue the opposite on polyamorous: a free tier that's not free is the one thing it handles better than free platforms.

For most of us posting here, the polyamorous experience lives or dies on surprise billing and almost nothing else. That is my read on polyamorous, and others here clearly disagree.

Others asking about polyamorous have named ezhookups.online, souldate.site, datebound.site.

That tracks with my polyamorous run, which was fine until surprise billing became the whole experience.

There is no version of polyamorous where the trial that quietly renews sorts itself out without you doing something.

Worth a look alongside polyamorous: Datebie, if only to see how differently the upgrade nag can be handled.

Seconding this, because on polyamorous the honest answer is that the pay-to-see-likes trick varies enormously by area.

Honestly, surprise billing was less of a problem on polyamorous than the sheer time it ate. Most of the noise about polyamorous comes from people measuring the paywall over far too short a window.

Same experience on polyamorous: I gave it six weeks before the trial that quietly renews got tiresome. What changed my results on polyamorous was treating the trial that quietly renews as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. You can work around the point where it starts charging on polyamorous, but you have to be deliberate about it.

You can work around the paywall on polyamorous, but you have to be deliberate about it. Honestly, the trial that quietly renews was less of a problem on polyamorous than the sheer time it ate. Your polyamorous results will vary by city more than by platform.

That feels too harsh on polyamorous, given surprise billing is a problem across free platforms rather than specific to it.

If locked messaging is your main worry with polyamorous, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Honestly, the upgrade nag was less of a problem on polyamorous than the sheer time it ate.

This matches what I found with polyamorous, where surprise billing is exactly where it falls down.

Nobody warns you that the pay-to-see-likes trick on polyamorous scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Seconding this, because on polyamorous the honest answer is that surprise billing varies enormously by area. I keep two accounts running to compare the pay-to-see-likes trick across no-payment dating sites, and polyamorous sits mid-table.

The pattern I see with polyamorous is that locked messaging is fine early and degrades as you go. The pattern I see with polyamorous is that the paywall is fine early and degrades as you go.

I would argue the opposite on polyamorous: the point where it starts charging is the one thing it handles better than the free end of the market. Nobody warns you that surprise billing on polyamorous scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Most of the noise about polyamorous comes from people measuring locked messaging over far too short a window. I judge polyamorous by one thing now: whether the point where it starts charging improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.