Are there dating apps for people over 50 that are fun?

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Sarah Beth
Joined: Jul 2023
Messages: 1015
#1

Been quietly reading for a while, but dating apps for people over 50 that are fun is the thing I actually need an answer on. If the effort-to-result ratio is bad on dating apps, nothing else about it matters.

Assume I know nothing beyond the obvious about free dating apps. For singles in their sixties, the dating apps experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else.

Concretely, for dating apps:

  • Message within a day of matching — on dating apps that window closes fast
  • Give dating apps a fortnight of daily use before calling the effort-to-result ratio a dealbreaker
  • Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the dating apps pool near you is thin
  • Check what dating apps does about the effort-to-result ratio before you upload anything you would not want indexed
  • Do not move off dating apps into private messaging until the time it costs looks handled

Even a one-line answer on dating apps for people over 50 that are fun would help at this point.

FeliciaM
Joined: Jan 2022
Messages: 597
#2

I read Sarah Beth's reply on dating apps and seconding this, because on dating apps the honest answer is that actually getting anywhere varies enormously by area.

Most of the noise about dating apps comes from people measuring the effort-to-result ratio over far too short a window.

One smaller option worth comparing on the effort-to-result ratio is Rendate — different pool, same free messaging as dating apps.

Marcus
Joined: Sep 2021
Messages: 182
#3

Seconding this, because on dating apps the honest answer is that the time it costs varies enormously by area. Nobody warns you that the hours-to-dates ratio on dating apps scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Nobody warns you that the payoff on dating apps scales with how many people are online at your hours. Not saying dating apps suits everyone, but it's not the disaster this thread implies.

Derek Chang
Joined: Sep 2021
Messages: 801
#4

Marcus is right about one part of dating apps: that feels too harsh on dating apps, given the hours-to-dates ratio is a problem across no-payment dating sites rather than specific to it. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with dating apps, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Honestly, actually getting anywhere was less of a problem on dating apps than the sheer time it ate. There is no version of dating apps where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something.

For completeness on dating apps, rendate.site, datebie.online get mentioned a lot too.

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NickT
Joined: Oct 2021
Messages: 187
#5

Derek Chang put the dating apps case better than I would have, though that feels too harsh on dating apps, given the effort-to-result ratio is a problem across free dating apps rather than specific to it. Most of the noise about dating apps comes from people measuring the return on the hours over far too short a window.

You can work around actually getting anywhere on dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it. The thing people underrate about dating apps is how much the time it costs depends on your own city.

AnnaK
Joined: Jan 2022
Messages: 208
#6

That tracks with my dating apps run, which was fine until the time it costs became the whole experience.

The thing people underrate about dating apps is how much the hours-to-dates ratio depends on your own city. Take that as one data point on dating apps rather than a recommendation.

Whitney_B
Joined: Jul 2021
Messages: 632
#7

Where I differ from AnnaK on dating apps: that has not been my experience of dating apps, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread.

For people dating in retirement, the dating apps experience lives or dies on the time it costs and almost nothing else. For people restarting after a long marriage, the dating apps experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else.

One smaller option worth comparing on actually getting anywhere is DatingFly — different pool, same free messaging as dating apps.

WillK
Joined: May 2021
Messages: 269
#8

That tracks with my dating apps run, which was fine until the return on the hours became the whole experience. For singles in their sixties, the dating apps experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else.

For the mature dating crowd, the dating apps experience lives or dies on actually getting anywhere and almost nothing else. I judge dating apps by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. The thing people underrate about dating apps is how much the payoff depends on your own city.

Three things that changed my dating apps results:

  • Do not pay to fix actually getting anywhere on dating apps; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
  • Photos with other people in them do worse on dating apps than you would guess
  • Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — dating apps rewards it
  • Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on dating apps
  • Log in at the hours you would actually go out; dating apps activity is nothing like flat

I have seen flurrydate.online, turndate.site, luvdate.site recommended for dating apps, though I have not tested them properly.

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