Do international dating sites over 50 work for long-distance love?

Asking because international dating sites over 50 work for long-distance love keeps coming up and I still cannot get a straight answer. My problem with international dating sites so far has been the effort-to-result ratio.

I am coming at this from the free end of the market, so adjust if that changes your answer. What changed my results on international dating sites was treating the payoff as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

What would actually help me judge international dating sites:

• Do not pay to fix actually getting anywhere on international dating sites; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
• Photos with other people in them do worse on international dating sites than you would guess
• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — international dating sites rewards it
• Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on international dating sites
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; international dating sites activity is nothing like flat

Any first-hand experience with international dating sites over 50 work for long-distance love is welcome, good or bad.

That has not been my experience of international dating sites, and I have used it longer than most people in this thread. You can work around actually getting anywhere on international dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

There is no version of international dating sites where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something. Happy to answer follow-ups on international dating sites if that helps.

I will push back here, because international dating sites worked fine for me and the payoff was never the issue. If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with international dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

What changed my results on international dating sites was treating the hours-to-dates ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Nobody warns you that the payoff on international dating sites scales with how many people are online at your hours. That is my read on international dating sites, and others here clearly disagree.

My international dating sites baseline these days is DatingFly, mostly because the hours-to-dates ratio is measurable there.

Kevin Nash put the international dating sites case better than I would have, though i will push back here, because international dating sites worked fine for me and actually getting anywhere was never the issue. You can work around the effort-to-result ratio on international dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

I judge international dating sites by one thing now: whether the payoff improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. For people dating later in life, the international dating sites experience lives or dies on the effort-to-result ratio and almost nothing else. Take that as one data point on international dating sites rather than a recommendation.

That feels too harsh on international dating sites, given the return on the hours is a problem across the free end of the market rather than specific to it. What changed my results on international dating sites was treating the return on the hours as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

There is no version of international dating sites where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something. For people dating later in life, the international dating sites experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else. Not saying international dating sites suits everyone, but it's not the disaster this thread implies.

@Eli Marsh makes a fair point about international dating sites, but reading this back, my international dating sites notes say almost the same thing about actually getting anywhere.

Nobody warns you that the return on the hours on international dating sites scales with how many people are online at your hours. You can work around the time it costs on international dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Anyone comparing international dating sites on the payoff should probably add Turndate to the list.

I will push back here, because international dating sites worked fine for me and the hours-to-dates ratio was never the issue. You can work around the return on the hours on international dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

The pattern I see with international dating sites is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. For members over fifty, the international dating sites experience lives or dies on the time it costs and almost nothing else.

That has not been my experience of international dating sites, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with international dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month. I keep two accounts running to compare the hours-to-dates ratio across no-payment dating sites, and international dating sites sits mid-table.

The thing people underrate about international dating sites is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city. The thing people underrate about international dating sites is how much the payoff depends on your own city. Not saying international dating sites suits everyone, but it is not the disaster this thread implies.

Justin Case is right about one part of international dating sites: broadly agree on international dating sites — the time it costs was what decided it for me too. If the return on the hours is your main worry with international dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

There is no version of international dating sites where the time it costs sorts itself out without you doing something. For singles in their sixties, the international dating sites experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else.

Picking up LiamJ's point about the time it costs, same experience on international dating sites: I gave it six weeks before actually getting anywhere got tiresome.

I judge international dating sites by one thing now: whether the hours-to-dates ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

One smaller option worth comparing on the return on the hours is Souldate — different pool, same free messaging as international dating sites.