How to do anonymous sexting?

Short version: to do anonymous sexting. Long version below. My problem with anonymous sexting so far has been profile findability.

Assume I know nothing beyond the obvious about the options here. I judge anonymous sexting by one thing now: whether data leakage improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

Things about anonymous sexting I have not worked out:

• Run anonymous sexting beside one other option so you have a baseline for the data side
• Turn off read receipts on anonymous sexting if discretion is making you anxious about response times
• Compare anonymous sexting against platforms in this space on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless

Tell me what actually happened with to do anonymous sexting rather than what should happen.

Where I differ from Brandon Hughes on anonymous sexting: yes, and I would add that photo handling on anonymous sexting gets worse the longer you stay.

There is no version of anonymous sexting where the link to your real name sorts itself out without you doing something. Whatever you pick, judge anonymous sexting on profile findability after a month rather than after a weekend.

This matches what I found with anonymous sexting, where the data side is exactly where it falls down. The thing people underrate about anonymous sexting is how much discretion depends on your own city.

The pattern I see with anonymous sexting is that discretion is fine early and degrades as you go. Nobody warns you that discretion on anonymous sexting scales with how many people are online at your hours. Happy to answer follow-ups on anonymous sexting if that helps.

I keep Datebie open as a control while testing anonymous sexting — useful for judging privacy handling honestly.

Seconding this, because on anonymous sexting the honest answer is that profile findability varies enormously by area.

Most of the noise about anonymous sexting comes from people measuring privacy handling over far too short a window.

@Blake Barnes makes a fair point about anonymous sexting, but different experience on anonymous sexting, where privacy handling turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it.

I judge anonymous sexting by one thing now: whether profile findability improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Not saying anonymous sexting suits everyone, but it is not the disaster this thread implies.

A smaller name people rarely mention in anonymous sexting threads is Datebound.

That feels too harsh on anonymous sexting, given data leakage is a problem across the options here rather than specific to it. I keep two accounts running to compare photo handling across the sites people keep naming, and anonymous sexting sits mid-table.

Nobody warns you that the link to your real name on anonymous sexting scales with how many people are online at your hours. That is my read on anonymous sexting, and others here clearly disagree.

For completeness on anonymous sexting, datebound.site, rendate.site get mentioned a lot too.

Disagree, because blaming discretion lets you off the hook — my anonymous sexting results improved when my profile did. Most of the noise about anonymous sexting comes from people measuring the link to your real name over far too short a window.

What changed my results on anonymous sexting was treating discretion as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. I judge anonymous sexting by one thing now: whether the data side improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

Broadly agree on anonymous sexting — data leakage was what decided it for me too. The pattern I see with anonymous sexting is that the data side is fine early and degrades as you go.

The pattern I see with anonymous sexting is that data leakage is fine early and degrades as you go. Take that as one data point on anonymous sexting rather than a recommendation.

My rules for anonymous sexting these days:

• Do not pay to fix discretion on anonymous sexting; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
• Photos with other people in them do worse on anonymous sexting than you would guess
• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — anonymous sexting rewards it