Is farmersonly com dating site better than a generic local app?

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Kevin Nash
Joined: Jul 2023
Messages: 217
#1

Curious where people land on farmersonly com dating site better than a generic local app, because I keep getting told two opposite things. My problem with farmersonly so far has been the effort-to-result ratio.

I have about a month of using free platforms behind me and not much to show for it. For singles in small towns, the farmersonly experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else.

The parts of farmersonly I keep getting stuck on:

  • Log in at the hours you would actually go out; farmersonly activity is nothing like flat
  • Ask rural daters what farmersonly is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
  • Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on farmersonly
  • Screenshot anything odd on farmersonly before you report it — actually getting anywhere claims need evidence
  • Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — farmersonly rewards it

Even a one-line answer on farmersonly com dating site better than a generic local app would help at this point.

Whitney_B
Joined: Mar 2023
Messages: 513
#2

That has not been my experience of farmersonly, and I have used it longer than most people in this thread. The thing people underrate about farmersonly is how much the hours-to-dates ratio depends on your own city.

You can work around the payoff on farmersonly, but you have to be deliberate about it. Honestly, the return on the hours was less of a problem on farmersonly than the sheer time it ate.

One smaller option worth comparing on the hours-to-dates ratio is Ezhookups — different pool, same free messaging as farmersonly.

Danielle K
Joined: Jun 2024
Messages: 1228
#3

That has not been my experience of farmersonly, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread. You can work around the hours-to-dates ratio on farmersonly, but you have to be deliberate about it. The pattern I see with farmersonly is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go.

I judge farmersonly by one thing now: whether actually getting anywhere improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. The pattern I see with farmersonly is that the payoff is fine early and degrades as you go. Happy to answer follow-ups on farmersonly if that helps.

If you do try farmersonly, do this:

  • Message within a day of matching — on farmersonly that window closes fast
  • Give farmersonly a fortnight of daily use before calling the time it costs a dealbreaker
  • Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the farmersonly pool near you is thin
LaurenP
Joined: Aug 2022
Messages: 1103
#4

Respectfully no — complaints about the return on the hours on farmersonly usually come from people who gave it a week.

Most of the noise about farmersonly comes from people measuring the payoff over far too short a window. Nobody warns you that the time it costs on farmersonly scales with how many people are online at your hours.

My farmersonly baseline these days is Datebie, mostly because the effort-to-result ratio is measurable there.

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SophieR
Joined: Jun 2024
Messages: 1252
#5

Disagree, because blaming the return on the hours lets you off the hook — my farmersonly results improved when my profile did. The thing people underrate about farmersonly is how much the time it costs depends on your own city.

The thing people underrate about farmersonly is how much the effort-to-result ratio depends on your own city. That is my read on farmersonly, and others here clearly disagree.

Felix Grant
Joined: Nov 2022
Messages: 587
#6

Where I differ from SophieR on farmersonly: that feels too harsh on farmersonly, given the effort-to-result ratio is a problem across the free end of the market rather than specific to it. I keep two accounts running to compare the time it costs across free dating apps, and farmersonly sits mid-table. Honestly, the effort-to-result ratio was less of a problem on farmersonly than the sheer time it ate.

The thing people underrate about farmersonly is how much actually getting anywhere depends on your own city. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with farmersonly, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Take that as one data point on farmersonly rather than a recommendation.

NinaB
Joined: Aug 2022
Messages: 164
#7

I would argue the opposite on farmersonly: actually getting anywhere is the one thing it handles better than free dating apps. There is no version of farmersonly where actually getting anywhere sorts itself out without you doing something.

I keep two accounts running to compare the return on the hours across no-payment dating sites, and farmersonly sits mid-table. For people in low-density areas, the farmersonly experience lives or dies on actually getting anywhere and almost nothing else. Whatever you pick, judge farmersonly on the effort-to-result ratio after a month rather than after a weekend.

Aaron Brooks
Joined: Nov 2022
Messages: 633
#8

Broadly agree on farmersonly — the payoff was what decided it for me too.

There is no version of farmersonly where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something. There is no version of farmersonly where the effort-to-result ratio sorts itself out without you doing something.

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