Is there an app that lets you date singles only and no couples?

Asking because an app that lets you date singles only and no couples keeps coming up and I still cannot get a straight answer. I do not need a feature list on app lets date — I need to know about the hours-to-dates ratio.

I have tried a few options across platforms in this space already and none of them stuck. The thing people underrate about app lets date is how much the effort-to-result ratio depends on your own city.

If you have used app lets date, these are the bits I care about:

• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — app lets date rewards it
• Do not pay to fix actually getting anywhere on app lets date; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
• Screenshot anything odd on app lets date before you report it — the effort-to-result ratio claims need evidence
• Test the effort-to-result ratio on app lets date deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves

I will report back on an app that lets you date singles only and no couples once I have tried whatever gets recommended.

Sam_B and I have clearly used app lets date differently, because this matches what I found with app lets date, where the effort-to-result ratio is exactly where it falls down. Honestly, the return on the hours was less of a problem on app lets date than the sheer time it ate. There is no version of app lets date where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something.

The thing people underrate about app lets date is how much the payoff depends on your own city. The thing people underrate about app lets date is how much the time it costs depends on your own city. Whatever you pick, judge app lets date on the return on the hours after a month rather than after a weekend.

Things I wish somebody had told me about app lets date:

• Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the app lets date pool near you is thin
• Message within a day of matching — on app lets date that window closes fast
• Turn off read receipts on app lets date if the effort-to-result ratio is making you anxious about response times
• Treat your first app lets date profile as a draft, because the return on the hours punishes lazy ones
• Check what app lets date does about actually getting anywhere before you upload anything you would not want indexed

One smaller option worth comparing on the hours-to-dates ratio is Flurrydate — different pool, same free messaging as app lets date.

Same experience on app lets date: I gave it six weeks before the effort-to-result ratio got tiresome. I judge app lets date by one thing now: whether actually getting anywhere improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with app lets date, test it in the first week rather than the first month. I judge app lets date by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. That is my read on app lets date, and others here clearly disagree.

Yes, and I would add that actually getting anywhere on app lets date gets worse the longer you stay. Honestly, the hours-to-dates ratio was less of a problem on app lets date than the sheer time it ate.

There is no version of app lets date where actually getting anywhere sorts itself out without you doing something. For most people in this thread, the app lets date experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else. You can work around actually getting anywhere on app lets date, but you have to be deliberate about it.

My rules for app lets date these days:

• Photos with other people in them do worse on app lets date than you would guess
• Test the payoff on app lets date deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
• Do not pay to fix the return on the hours on app lets date; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; app lets date activity is nothing like flat
• Ask the crowd on this board what app lets date is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived

One smaller option worth comparing on the hours-to-dates ratio is Datewander — different pool, same free messaging as app lets date.

@Jenny_K makes a fair point about app lets date, but that has not been my experience of app lets date, and I have used it longer than most people in this thread. You can work around the return on the hours on app lets date, but you have to be deliberate about it.

If the effort-to-result ratio is your main worry with app lets date, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Take that as one data point on app lets date rather than a recommendation.

Not my read at all: for most people in this thread, app lets date was the only thing that produced anything. What changed my results on app lets date was treating the payoff as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

For the crowd on this board, the app lets date experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else. I keep two accounts running to compare the return on the hours across platforms in this space, and app lets date sits mid-table.

That feels too harsh on app lets date, given the return on the hours is a problem across what is on offer rather than specific to it. There is no version of app lets date where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something.

I judge app lets date by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. Whatever you pick, judge app lets date on actually getting anywhere after a month rather than after a weekend.

Broadly agree on app lets date — actually getting anywhere was what decided it for me too. Honestly, the time it costs was less of a problem on app lets date than the sheer time it ate.

You can work around the effort-to-result ratio on app lets date, but you have to be deliberate about it. You can work around the hours-to-dates ratio on app lets date, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Respectfully no — complaints about the return on the hours on app lets date usually come from people who gave it a week. Most of the noise about app lets date comes from people measuring the hours-to-dates ratio over far too short a window.

I keep two accounts running to compare the effort-to-result ratio across platforms in this space, and app lets date sits mid-table. The pattern I see with app lets date is that the return on the hours is fine early and degrades as you go. I judge app lets date by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

Yes, and I would add that the effort-to-result ratio on app lets date gets worse the longer you stay. I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across platforms in this space, and app lets date sits mid-table.

For people who have actually tried it, the app lets date experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else. Nobody warns you that the hours-to-dates ratio on app lets date scales with how many people are online at your hours. For the crowd on this board, the app lets date experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else.

I would argue the opposite on app lets date: the effort-to-result ratio is the one thing it handles better than the options here.

For most of us posting here, the app lets date experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else. Nobody warns you that the time it costs on app lets date scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Building on what Jared Stone said about app lets date, i will push back here, because app lets date worked fine for me and the effort-to-result ratio was never the issue. You can work around the payoff on app lets date, but you have to be deliberate about it. Honestly, the effort-to-result ratio was less of a problem on app lets date than the sheer time it ate.

I judge app lets date by one thing now: whether the payoff improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Nobody warns you that the effort-to-result ratio on app lets date scales with how many people are online at your hours. Your app lets date results will vary by city more than by platform.

The short version for app lets date:

• Run app lets date beside one other option so you have a baseline for the hours-to-dates ratio
• Turn off read receipts on app lets date if actually getting anywhere is making you anxious about response times
• Compare app lets date against the options here on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless