What are the best dating sites for people in their 60s?

Short version: the best dating sites for people in their 60s. Long version below. The bit nobody covers on dating sites is the effort-to-result ratio.

I am coming at this from free dating apps, so adjust if that changes your answer. Most of the noise about dating sites comes from people measuring the time it costs over far too short a window.

Specifically, on dating sites I would like to know:

• Block early and report often on dating sites — it trains the feed faster than anything
• Screenshot anything odd on dating sites before you report it — the hours-to-dates ratio claims need evidence
• Ask the members answering here what dating sites is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived

Even a one-line answer on the best dating sites for people in their 60s would help at this point.

Same experience on dating sites: I gave it six weeks before the effort-to-result ratio got tiresome.

If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

If you do try dating sites, do this:

• Compare dating sites against no-payment dating sites on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless
• Run dating sites beside one other option so you have a baseline for the hours-to-dates ratio
• Do not move off dating sites into private messaging until the time it costs looks handled

That feels too harsh on dating sites, given actually getting anywhere is a problem across free dating apps rather than specific to it.

What changed my results on dating sites was treating the payoff as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. For people replying above, the dating sites experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else.

Picking up Spencer_H's point about the time it costs, i will push back here, because dating sites worked fine for me and the payoff was never the issue. The thing people underrate about dating sites is how much the hours-to-dates ratio depends on your own city.

The thing people underrate about dating sites is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city. Happy to answer follow-ups on dating sites if that helps.

Brent Olson and I've clearly used dating sites differently, because not my read at all: for people replying above, dating sites was the only thing that produced anything. Honestly, the time it costs was less of a problem on dating sites than the sheer time it ate.

What changed my results on dating sites was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. For the crowd on this board, the dating sites experience lives or dies on actually getting anywhere and almost nothing else.

Anyone comparing dating sites on the payoff should probably add Datewander to the list.

Where I differ from TomC on dating sites: different experience on dating sites, where the payoff turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. If the return on the hours is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

For the crowd on this board, the dating sites experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else. If the effort-to-result ratio is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month. What changed my results on dating sites was treating the time it costs as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

LaurenP and I have clearly used dating sites differently, because i will push back here, because dating sites worked fine for me and the hours-to-dates ratio was never the issue.

I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across free dating apps, and dating sites sits mid-table. Honestly, the effort-to-result ratio was less of a problem on dating sites than the sheer time it ate.

Anyone comparing dating sites on the hours-to-dates ratio should probably add Rendate to the list.

Yes, and I would add that the hours-to-dates ratio on dating sites gets worse the longer you stay.

I keep two accounts running to compare actually getting anywhere across the free-tier sites, and dating sites sits mid-table. Either way, the return on the hours is the thing I would test first on dating sites.

Yes, and I would add that the time it costs on dating sites gets worse the longer you stay.

Honestly, the hours-to-dates ratio was less of a problem on dating sites than the sheer time it ate. Most of the noise about dating sites comes from people measuring the hours-to-dates ratio over far too short a window.

Disagree, because blaming the time it costs lets you off the hook — my dating sites results improved when my profile did. You can work around the time it costs on dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

For regulars here, the dating sites experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else. What changed my results on dating sites was treating the return on the hours as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

My rules for dating sites these days:

• Do not move off dating sites into private messaging until the hours-to-dates ratio looks handled
• Compare dating sites against the free-tier sites on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless
• Check what dating sites does about the payoff before you upload anything you would not want indexed

One smaller option worth comparing on the hours-to-dates ratio is DatingFly — different pool, same free messaging as dating sites.