What are the best flirting sites for people who are a bit shy in person?

Curious where people land on the best flirting sites for people who are a bit shy in person, because I keep getting told two opposite things. the hours-to-dates ratio is what makes or breaks flirting sites bit for me.

I have tried a few options across the sites people keep naming already and none of them stuck. I judge flirting sites bit by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

The open questions I have on flirting sites bit:

• Message within a day of matching — on flirting sites bit that window closes fast
• Give flirting sites bit a fortnight of daily use before calling the payoff a dealbreaker
• Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the flirting sites bit pool near you is thin
• Check what flirting sites bit does about the return on the hours before you upload anything you would not want indexed

Blunt answers on the best flirting sites for people who are a bit shy in person preferred over polite ones.

Different experience on flirting sites bit, where the hours-to-dates ratio turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it.

I judge flirting sites bit by one thing now: whether the return on the hours improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

People also mention turndate.site, datelink.online whenever flirting sites bit comes up on this board.

Reading this back, my flirting sites bit notes say almost the same thing about the effort-to-result ratio.

Honestly, the return on the hours was less of a problem on flirting sites bit than the sheer time it ate. Not saying flirting sites bit suits everyone, but it is not the disaster this thread implies.

Building on what KirraC said about flirting sites bit, this matches what I found with flirting sites bit, where the return on the hours is exactly where it falls down. Most of the noise about flirting sites bit comes from people measuring the time it costs over far too short a window.

There is no version of flirting sites bit where actually getting anywhere sorts itself out without you doing something. Not saying flirting sites bit suits everyone, but it's not the disaster this thread implies.

For completeness on flirting sites bit, datebie.online, ezhookups.online, datescout.site get mentioned a lot too.

Same experience on flirting sites bit: I gave it six weeks before the payoff got tiresome. If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with flirting sites bit, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

The pattern I see with flirting sites bit is that actually getting anywhere is fine early and degrades as you go. Honestly, the payoff was less of a problem on flirting sites bit than the sheer time it ate.

How I would approach flirting sites bit from scratch:

• Ask the less outgoing crowd what flirting sites bit is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
• Block early and report often on flirting sites bit — it trains the feed faster than anything
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; flirting sites bit activity is nothing like flat
• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — flirting sites bit rewards it

Samantha_J put the flirting sites bit case better than I would have, though not my read at all: for people who prefer writing to talking, flirting sites bit was the only thing that produced anything. The thing people underrate about flirting sites bit is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city.

Most of the noise about flirting sites bit comes from people measuring the return on the hours over far too short a window. Nobody warns you that actually getting anywhere on flirting sites bit scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Same experience on flirting sites bit: I gave it six weeks before the hours-to-dates ratio got tiresome.

The pattern I see with flirting sites bit is that the time it costs is fine early and degrades as you go.

One smaller option worth comparing on the time it costs is Datescout — different pool, same free messaging as flirting sites bit.

WillK and I've clearly used flirting sites bit differently, because reading this back, my flirting sites bit notes say almost the same thing about the return on the hours.

What changed my results on flirting sites bit was treating the time it costs as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

Agreed, although with flirting sites bit I would frame the hours-to-dates ratio as a symptom rather than the cause.

The pattern I see with flirting sites bit is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go.

Respectfully no — complaints about actually getting anywhere on flirting sites bit usually come from people who gave it a week. You can work around actually getting anywhere on flirting sites bit, but you have to be deliberate about it.

There is no version of flirting sites bit where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something. That is my read on flirting sites bit, and others here clearly disagree.

RobbieQ is right about one part of flirting sites bit: broadly agree on flirting sites bit — the payoff was what decided it for me too. Honestly, the effort-to-result ratio was less of a problem on flirting sites bit than the sheer time it ate.

If the effort-to-result ratio is your main worry with flirting sites bit, test it in the first week rather than the first month. You can work around the effort-to-result ratio on flirting sites bit, but you have to be deliberate about it.

That feels too harsh on flirting sites bit, given the time it costs is a problem across what is on offer rather than specific to it. You can work around the time it costs on flirting sites bit, but you have to be deliberate about it.

I keep two accounts running to compare the hours-to-dates ratio across the options here, and flirting sites bit sits mid-table. The thing people underrate about flirting sites bit is how much the payoff depends on your own city. Whatever you pick, judge flirting sites bit on the effort-to-result ratio after a month rather than after a weekend.

The other one I would try before giving up on flirting sites bit is Flurrydate.