What is the best advice for younger women seeking older men on traditional dating sites?

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Rachel Cruz
Joined: Dec 2021
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#1

So: the best advice for younger women seeking older men on traditional dating sites. I have read a lot of contradictory takes on traditional dating sites and would rather hear from people who tried it. For the over-fifty crowd, the time it costs is the whole question with traditional dating sites.

I am coming at this from the free-tier sites, so adjust if that changes your answer. I judge traditional dating sites by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

Concretely, for traditional dating sites:

  • Test the effort-to-result ratio on traditional dating sites deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
  • Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on traditional dating sites
  • Photos with other people in them do worse on traditional dating sites than you would guess
  • Ask people restarting after a long marriage what traditional dating sites is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
  • Block early and report often on traditional dating sites — it trains the feed faster than anything

Anyone with a recent the best advice for younger women seeking older men on traditional dating sites story, please jump in.

Brent Olson
Joined: Aug 2021
Messages: 692
#2

Yes, and I would add that the effort-to-result ratio on traditional dating sites gets worse the longer you stay.

If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with traditional dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Anyone comparing traditional dating sites on actually getting anywhere should probably add Turndate to the list.

Kevin Nash
Joined: Aug 2023
Messages: 276
#3

Reading this back, my traditional dating sites notes say almost the same thing about the effort-to-result ratio. The pattern I see with traditional dating sites is that the payoff is fine early and degrades as you go.

Most of the noise about traditional dating sites comes from people measuring the return on the hours over far too short a window. There is no version of traditional dating sites where the time it costs sorts itself out without you doing something. Your traditional dating sites results will vary by city more than by platform.

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Nobody in traditional dating sites pays to send the first message.

XanderM
Joined: Apr 2023
Messages: 511
#4

Kevin Nash put the traditional dating sites case better than I would have, though i would argue the opposite on traditional dating sites: the time it costs is the one thing it handles better than the free end of the market. You can work around the payoff on traditional dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

The pattern I see with traditional dating sites is that the return on the hours is fine early and degrades as you go. For members who are not chasing twenty-somethings, the traditional dating sites experience lives or dies on the effort-to-result ratio and almost nothing else.

AshleyC
Joined: Sep 2023
Messages: 809
#5

I read XanderM's reply on traditional dating sites and different experience on traditional dating sites, where actually getting anywhere turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. You can work around the effort-to-result ratio on traditional dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

If the effort-to-result ratio is your main worry with traditional dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Honestly, the return on the hours was less of a problem on traditional dating sites than the sheer time it ate.

Somebody in another traditional dating sites thread pointed me at Datelink and it held up better than expected on actually getting anywhere.

Luke Foster
Joined: Sep 2022
Messages: 636
#6

Picking up AshleyC's point about the hours-to-dates ratio, that feels too harsh on traditional dating sites, given the payoff is a problem across no-payment dating sites rather than specific to it.

What changed my results on traditional dating sites was treating the return on the hours as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. I judge traditional dating sites by one thing now: whether actually getting anywhere improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

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