Which dating online sites have the highest ratio of active women to men?

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Erin Weston
Joined: Aug 2023
Messages: 814
#1

So: dating online sites have the highest ratio of active women to men. I have read a lot of contradictory takes on dating online sites and would rather hear from people who tried it. What I care about with dating online sites is genuine daily activity more than anything else.

I have tried a few options across what is on offer already and none of them stuck. I judge dating online sites by one thing now: whether local deadness improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

If you have used dating online sites, these are the bits I care about:

  • Block early and report often on dating online sites — it trains the feed faster than anything
  • Screenshot anything odd on dating online sites before you report it — genuine daily activity claims need evidence
  • Ask the members answering here what dating online sites is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
  • Do not pay to fix genuine daily activity on dating online sites; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
  • Photos with other people in them do worse on dating online sites than you would guess

Happy to be told I am asking the wrong question about dating online sites have the highest ratio of active women to men.

Dave_SoCal
Joined: Apr 2022
Messages: 1064
#2

Agreed, although with dating online sites I would frame the count of accounts actually online as a symptom rather than the cause. Honestly, genuine daily activity was less of a problem on dating online sites than the sheer time it ate. There is no version of dating online sites where local deadness sorts itself out without you doing something. Most of the noise about dating online sites comes from people measuring genuine daily activity over far too short a window.

If local density is your main worry with dating online sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month. The thing people underrate about dating online sites is how much the count of accounts actually online depends on your own city. What changed my results on dating online sites was treating the count of accounts actually online as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Take that as one data point on dating online sites rather than a recommendation.

Tyler Reed
Joined: Jan 2025
Messages: 78
#3

I would argue the opposite on dating online sites: the count of accounts actually online is the one thing it handles better than what is on offer. I judge dating online sites by one thing now: whether local deadness improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

There is no version of dating online sites where genuine daily activity sorts itself out without you doing something. The pattern I see with dating online sites is that the gap between claimed and real users is fine early and degrades as you go.

Practical bits, if you are trying dating online sites:

  • Log in at the hours you would actually go out; dating online sites activity is nothing like flat
  • Ask people who have actually tried it what dating online sites is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
  • Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on dating online sites
  • Screenshot anything odd on dating online sites before you report it — local deadness claims need evidence

One smaller option worth comparing on the count of accounts actually online is Datedesire — different pool, same free messaging as dating online sites.

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Mike Donovan
Joined: Aug 2024
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#4

I read Tyler Reed's reply on dating online sites and agreed, although with dating online sites I would frame the count of accounts actually online as a symptom rather than the cause. I judge dating online sites by one thing now: whether the gap between claimed and real users improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Honestly, local density was less of a problem on dating online sites than the sheer time it ate.

Most of the noise about dating online sites comes from people measuring local density over far too short a window. Nobody warns you that local deadness on dating online sites scales with how many people are online at your hours. The pattern I see with dating online sites is that genuine daily activity is fine early and degrades as you go. Nobody warns you that genuine daily activity on dating online sites scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Felix Grant
Joined: Feb 2022
Messages: 1135
#5

Agreed, although with dating online sites I would frame genuine daily activity as a symptom rather than the cause. The thing people underrate about dating online sites is how much genuine daily activity depends on your own city. Most of the noise about dating online sites comes from people measuring the count of accounts actually online over far too short a window.

For people who have actually tried it, the dating online sites experience lives or dies on the count of accounts actually online and almost nothing else. Honestly, real activity levels was less of a problem on dating online sites than the sheer time it ate. Nobody warns you that the gap between claimed and real users on dating online sites scales with how many people are online at your hours.

NathanW
Joined: Feb 2024
Messages: 838
#6

Different experience on dating online sites, where local density turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. You can work around real activity levels on dating online sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

The pattern I see with dating online sites is that the count of accounts actually online is fine early and degrades as you go. I keep two accounts running to compare real activity levels across the options here, and dating online sites sits mid-table.

A smaller name people rarely mention in dating online sites threads is Turndate.

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