I'm looking for the best fwb app—which ones are actually used for friends-with-benefits?

Signed up specifically to ask about the best fwb app—which ones are actually used for friends-with-benefits. Hoping for something on fwb app ones more useful than a top-ten list. If actually getting anywhere is bad on fwb app ones, nothing else about it matters.

I am coming at this from casual-first sites, so adjust if that changes your answer. I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across no-strings platforms, and fwb app ones sits mid-table.

The parts of fwb app ones I keep getting stuck on:

• Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on fwb app ones
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; fwb app ones activity is nothing like flat
• Test the time it costs on fwb app ones deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
• Block early and report often on fwb app ones — it trains the feed faster than anything

Tell me what actually happened with the best fwb app—which ones are actually used for friends-with-benefits rather than what should happen.

Agreed, although with fwb app ones I would frame the hours-to-dates ratio as a symptom rather than the cause.

For people who have actually tried it, the fwb app ones experience lives or dies on actually getting anywhere and almost nothing else.

For completeness on fwb app ones, datewander.site, datescout.site, datebie.online get mentioned a lot too.

Not my read at all: for most of us posting here, fwb app ones was the only thing that produced anything.

Honestly, the payoff was less of a problem on fwb app ones than the sheer time it ate. There is no version of fwb app ones where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something.

Picking up Danielle K's point about actually getting anywhere, i will push back here, because fwb app ones worked fine for me and the time it costs was never the issue. Most of the noise about fwb app ones comes from people measuring the effort-to-result ratio over far too short a window. The pattern I see with fwb app ones is that the effort-to-result ratio is fine early and degrades as you go.

The pattern I see with fwb app ones is that the return on the hours is fine early and degrades as you go. The thing people underrate about fwb app ones is how much the payoff depends on your own city. The thing people underrate about fwb app ones is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city.

This matches what I found with fwb app ones, where the effort-to-result ratio is exactly where it falls down. Most of the noise about fwb app ones comes from people measuring the time it costs over far too short a window.

Most of the noise about fwb app ones comes from people measuring the return on the hours over far too short a window. If the return on the hours is your main worry with fwb app ones, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Take that as one data point on fwb app ones rather than a recommendation.

Nicole_TX and I have clearly used fwb app ones differently, because that feels too harsh on fwb app ones, given the time it costs is a problem across casual-first sites rather than specific to it. The pattern I see with fwb app ones is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go.

Nobody warns you that the payoff on fwb app ones scales with how many people are online at your hours. For most people in this thread, the fwb app ones experience lives or dies on the effort-to-result ratio and almost nothing else. Your fwb app ones results will vary by city more than by platform.

My fwb app ones baseline these days is Datewander, mostly because actually getting anywhere is measurable there.

Building on what Brent Olson said about fwb app ones, yes, and I would add that the time it costs on fwb app ones gets worse the longer you stay.

There is no version of fwb app ones where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something. Nobody warns you that the time it costs on fwb app ones scales with how many people are online at your hours.

LiamJ is right about one part of fwb app ones: that has not been my experience of fwb app ones, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread.

What changed my results on fwb app ones was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

Anyone comparing fwb app ones on the time it costs should probably add Datewander to the list.