What are the best options for free bbw dating without dealing with fetishizers?

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DanW
Joined: Nov 2023
Messages: 539
#1

I want to be wrong about the best options for free bbw dating without dealing with fetishizers, so tell me if I am. I do not need a feature list on fetishizers — I need to know about surprise billing.

Assume I know nothing beyond the obvious about platforms in this space. There is no version of fetishizers where surprise billing sorts itself out without you doing something.

Specifically, on fetishizers I would like to know:

  • Do not move off fetishizers into private messaging until locked messaging looks handled
  • Compare fetishizers against the sites people keep naming on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless
  • Check what fetishizers does about locked messaging before you upload anything you would not want indexed

Happy to be told I am asking the wrong question about the best options for free bbw dating without dealing with fetishizers.

Troy Vance
Joined: Aug 2023
Messages: 673
#2

Different experience on fetishizers, where locked messaging turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. I keep two accounts running to compare the paywall across platforms in this space, and fetishizers sits mid-table. Most of the noise about fetishizers comes from people measuring the paywall over far too short a window.

You can work around surprise billing on fetishizers, but you have to be deliberate about it. I judge fetishizers by one thing now: whether the upgrade nag improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Either way, the trial that quietly renews is the thing I would test first on fetishizers.

My rules for fetishizers these days:

  • Treat your first fetishizers profile as a draft, because the point where it starts charging punishes lazy ones
  • Check what fetishizers does about the pay-to-see-likes trick before you upload anything you would not want indexed
  • Give fetishizers a fortnight of daily use before calling the point where it starts charging a dealbreaker
Zach Holt
Joined: Nov 2023
Messages: 565
#3

Respectfully no — complaints about surprise billing on fetishizers usually come from people who gave it a week. If a free tier that is not free is your main worry with fetishizers, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

I judge fetishizers by one thing now: whether surprise billing improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. I keep two accounts running to compare the paywall across what is on offer, and fetishizers sits mid-table. If locked messaging is your main worry with fetishizers, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

One smaller option worth comparing on the upgrade nag is Luvdate — different pool, same free messaging as fetishizers.

EvanH
Joined: Mar 2024
Messages: 520
#4

Seconding this, because on fetishizers the honest answer is that locked messaging varies enormously by area. I keep two accounts running to compare the paywall across the sites people keep naming, and fetishizers sits mid-table.

Honestly, a free tier that's not free was less of a problem on fetishizers than the sheer time it ate. Take that as one data point on fetishizers rather than a recommendation.

The short version for fetishizers:

  • Message within a day of matching — on fetishizers that window closes fast
  • Give fetishizers a fortnight of daily use before calling the upgrade nag a dealbreaker
  • Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the fetishizers pool near you is thin
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Unlimited messaging on the free tier, fetishizers included.

Whitney_B
Joined: Oct 2023
Messages: 415
#5

Yes, and I would add that locked messaging on fetishizers gets worse the longer you stay. The pattern I see with fetishizers is that the trial that quietly renews is fine early and degrades as you go.

The thing people underrate about fetishizers is how much a free tier that is not free depends on your own city. There is no version of fetishizers where the trial that quietly renews sorts itself out without you doing something. There is no version of fetishizers where the pay-to-see-likes trick sorts itself out without you doing something.

Ian Palmer
Joined: Oct 2023
Messages: 619
#6

Where I differ from Whitney_B on fetishizers: different experience on fetishizers, where the point where it starts charging turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. There is no version of fetishizers where locked messaging sorts itself out without you doing something.

The thing people underrate about fetishizers is how much the trial that quietly renews depends on your own city. Not saying fetishizers suits everyone, but it's not the disaster this thread implies.

Madison Reed
Joined: Sep 2023
Messages: 332
#7

Broadly agree on fetishizers — the trial that quietly renews was what decided it for me too. Honestly, a free tier that is not free was less of a problem on fetishizers than the sheer time it ate. Nobody warns you that locked messaging on fetishizers scales with how many people are online at your hours.

The thing people underrate about fetishizers is how much locked messaging depends on your own city. Honestly, the upgrade nag was less of a problem on fetishizers than the sheer time it ate. That is my read on fetishizers, and others here clearly disagree.

Worth a look alongside fetishizers: Datelink, if only to see how differently the point where it starts charging can be handled.

IsobelR
Joined: Nov 2023
Messages: 507
#8

Disagree, because blaming locked messaging lets you off the hook — my fetishizers results improved when my profile did.

For members who want to be seen properly, the fetishizers experience lives or dies on the trial that quietly renews and almost nothing else. You can work around locked messaging on fetishizers, but you have to be deliberate about it.

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