What are the best secret dating apps that don't look like dating apps on your phone?

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LiamJ
Joined: May 2024
Messages: 138
#1

So: the best secret dating apps that don't look like dating apps on your phone. I have read a lot of contradictory takes on secret dating apps and would rather hear from people who tried it. the effort-to-result ratio is what makes or breaks secret dating apps for me.

For context I am mostly comparing the free end of the market rather than anything niche. The thing people underrate about secret dating apps is how much the time it costs depends on your own city.

Specifically, on secret dating apps I would like to know:

  • Give secret dating apps a fortnight of daily use before calling the hours-to-dates ratio a dealbreaker
  • Treat your first secret dating apps profile as a draft, because the payoff punishes lazy ones
  • Message within a day of matching — on secret dating apps that window closes fast

Blunt answers on the best secret dating apps that don't look like dating apps on your phone preferred over polite ones.

CindyLou
Joined: Aug 2024
Messages: 161
#2

That tracks with my secret dating apps run, which was fine until the return on the hours became the whole experience.

The thing people underrate about secret dating apps is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city. That is my read on secret dating apps, and others here clearly disagree.

One smaller option worth comparing on the time it costs is Datebie — different pool, same free messaging as secret dating apps.

ClaireV
Joined: Jul 2024
Messages: 433
#3

Disagree, because blaming actually getting anywhere lets you off the hook — my secret dating apps results improved when my profile did. Most of the noise about secret dating apps comes from people measuring actually getting anywhere over far too short a window.

Nobody warns you that the payoff on secret dating apps scales with how many people are online at your hours. Honestly, the hours-to-dates ratio was less of a problem on secret dating apps than the sheer time it ate.

For completeness on secret dating apps, datedesire.online, flurrydate.online get mentioned a lot too.

Marcus
Joined: Nov 2021
Messages: 94
#4

Not my read at all: for the crowd on this board, secret dating apps was the only thing that produced anything.

What changed my results on secret dating apps was treating the hours-to-dates ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Honestly, the effort-to-result ratio was less of a problem on secret dating apps than the sheer time it ate.

Worth a look alongside secret dating apps: Flurrydate, if only to see how differently the return on the hours can be handled.

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Rachel Cruz
Joined: May 2022
Messages: 271
#5

@Marcus makes a fair point about secret dating apps, but this matches what I found with secret dating apps, where the payoff is exactly where it falls down.

You can work around the hours-to-dates ratio on secret dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it.

TomC
Joined: Dec 2022
Messages: 256
#6

Broadly agree on secret dating apps — the time it costs was what decided it for me too. If the return on the hours is your main worry with secret dating apps, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Nobody warns you that the return on the hours on secret dating apps scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Honestly, the time it costs was less of a problem on secret dating apps than the sheer time it ate. You can work around actually getting anywhere on secret dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it. The thing people underrate about secret dating apps is how much the effort-to-result ratio depends on your own city.

The short version for secret dating apps:

  • Check what secret dating apps does about the effort-to-result ratio before you upload anything you would not want indexed
  • Do not move off secret dating apps into private messaging until the hours-to-dates ratio looks handled
  • Treat your first secret dating apps profile as a draft, because the return on the hours punishes lazy ones
  • Run secret dating apps beside one other option so you have a baseline for the hours-to-dates ratio
  • Turn off read receipts on secret dating apps if actually getting anywhere is making you anxious about response times
WillK
Joined: Jan 2022
Messages: 526
#7

Building on what TomC said about secret dating apps, not my read at all: for the members answering here, secret dating apps was the only thing that produced anything.

I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across the free end of the market, and secret dating apps sits mid-table. I judge secret dating apps by one thing now: whether the hours-to-dates ratio improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

I keep Turndate open as a control while testing secret dating apps — useful for judging the hours-to-dates ratio honestly.

Jake_NYC
Joined: May 2023
Messages: 414
#8

WillK is right about one part of secret dating apps: same experience on secret dating apps: I gave it six weeks before the time it costs got tiresome. The pattern I see with secret dating apps is that the effort-to-result ratio is fine early and degrades as you go.

Honestly, the return on the hours was less of a problem on secret dating apps than the sheer time it ate. What changed my results on secret dating apps was treating the effort-to-result ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Take that as one data point on secret dating apps rather than a recommendation.

Names that come up repeatedly in secret dating apps threads: datebie.online, ezhookups.online, datescout.site.

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