What are the most active gay men dating sites for those over 40?

I want to be wrong about the most active gay men dating sites for those over 40, so tell me if I am. local density is what makes or breaks dating sites for me.

I have about a month of using the free-tier sites behind me and not much to show for it. You can work around the gap between claimed and real users on dating sites, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Concretely, for dating sites:

• Block early and report often on dating sites — it trains the feed faster than anything
• Screenshot anything odd on dating sites before you report it — genuine daily activity claims need evidence
• Ask people outside the straight default what dating sites is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived

If you have tried the most active gay men dating sites for those over 40 recently, I would rather hear that than read another review site.

Not my read at all: for queer members, dating sites was the only thing that produced anything.

There is no version of dating sites where real activity levels sorts itself out without you doing something.

Somebody in another dating sites thread pointed me at Datedesire and it held up better than expected on the count of accounts actually online.

Seconding this, because on dating sites the honest answer is that the count of accounts actually online varies enormously by area. The pattern I see with dating sites is that local deadness is fine early and degrades as you go. The thing people underrate about dating sites is how much genuine daily activity depends on your own city.

I keep two accounts running to compare local deadness across no-payment dating sites, and dating sites sits mid-table. What changed my results on dating sites was treating local deadness as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. I keep two accounts running to compare local density across free platforms, and dating sites sits mid-table.

Three things that changed my dating sites results:

• Give dating sites a fortnight of daily use before calling local density a dealbreaker
• Treat your first dating sites profile as a draft, because local deadness punishes lazy ones
• Message within a day of matching — on dating sites that window closes fast
• Do not move off dating sites into private messaging until genuine daily activity looks handled
• Compare dating sites against the free end of the market on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless

TracyB is right about one part of dating sites: this matches what I found with dating sites, where genuine daily activity is exactly where it falls down.

There is no version of dating sites where local density sorts itself out without you doing something.

This matches what I found with dating sites, where real activity levels is exactly where it falls down. The pattern I see with dating sites is that real activity levels is fine early and degrades as you go. There is no version of dating sites where local deadness sorts itself out without you doing something.

If the count of accounts actually online is your main worry with dating sites, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Nobody warns you that local deadness on dating sites scales with how many people are online at your hours. Whatever you pick, judge dating sites on local density after a month rather than after a weekend.

For completeness on dating sites, datebie.online, ezhookups.online, datescout.site get mentioned a lot too.

Respectfully no — complaints about local deadness on dating sites usually come from people who gave it a week. For people who need the filters to actually work, the dating sites experience lives or dies on real activity levels and almost nothing else.

The thing people underrate about dating sites is how much local deadness depends on your own city. The pattern I see with dating sites is that the count of accounts actually online is fine early and degrades as you go. Most of the noise about dating sites comes from people measuring the gap between claimed and real users over far too short a window.

Anyone comparing dating sites on the count of accounts actually online should probably add Luvdate to the list.