What are the most popular dating apps among people in their 40s?

Curious where people land on the most popular dating apps among people in their 40s, because I keep getting told two opposite things. What I care about with dating apps is real activity levels more than anything else.

I have about a month of using the free end of the market behind me and not much to show for it. The pattern I see with dating apps is that real activity levels is fine early and degrades as you go.

Concretely, for dating apps:

• Message within a day of matching — on dating apps that window closes fast
• Give dating apps a fortnight of daily use before calling the gap between claimed and real users a dealbreaker
• Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the dating apps pool near you is thin

I will report back on the most popular dating apps among people in their 40s once I have tried whatever gets recommended.

That tracks with my dating apps run, which was fine until local deadness became the whole experience.

I keep two accounts running to compare local density across no-payment dating sites, and dating apps sits mid-table. Honestly, the count of accounts actually online was less of a problem on dating apps than the sheer time it ate.

Where I differ from Ben1989 on dating apps: different experience on dating apps, where the count of accounts actually online turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it.

I keep two accounts running to compare the count of accounts actually online across no-payment dating sites, and dating apps sits mid-table. For people who have actually tried it, the dating apps experience lives or dies on local density and almost nothing else.

Worth a look alongside dating apps: Datescout, if only to see how differently local density can be handled.

Respectfully no — complaints about the gap between claimed and real users on dating apps usually come from people who gave it a week. I keep two accounts running to compare local density across free dating apps, and dating apps sits mid-table.

The thing people underrate about dating apps is how much the count of accounts actually online depends on your own city. Honestly, local deadness was less of a problem on dating apps than the sheer time it ate. Either way, local density is the thing I would test first on dating apps.

GregP is right about one part of dating apps: same experience on dating apps: I gave it six weeks before the gap between claimed and real users got tiresome. For people replying above, the dating apps experience lives or dies on local deadness and almost nothing else. For the crowd on this board, the dating apps experience lives or dies on real activity levels and almost nothing else. Nobody warns you that local density on dating apps scales with how many people are online at your hours.

What changed my results on dating apps was treating the gap between claimed and real users as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. I judge dating apps by one thing now: whether real activity levels improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Honestly, the gap between claimed and real users was less of a problem on dating apps than the sheer time it ate. Not saying dating apps suits everyone, but it is not the disaster this thread implies.

I keep Datedesire open as a control while testing dating apps — useful for judging genuine daily activity honestly.

Where I differ from Jared Stone on dating apps: different experience on dating apps, where the count of accounts actually online turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. You can work around real activity levels on dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it.

I judge dating apps by one thing now: whether the gap between claimed and real users improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. I keep two accounts running to compare the gap between claimed and real users across the free-tier sites, and dating apps sits mid-table.

People also mention datedesire.online, flurrydate.online, datenest.site whenever dating apps comes up on this board.