What is adultfinder?

So: adultfinder. I have read a lot of contradictory takes on adultfinder and would rather hear from people who tried it. I do not need a feature list on adultfinder — I need to know about the time it costs.

For context I am mostly comparing what is on offer rather than anything niche. For regulars here, the adultfinder experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else.

Specifically, on adultfinder I would like to know:

• Treat your first adultfinder profile as a draft, because actually getting anywhere punishes lazy ones
• Check what adultfinder does about the effort-to-result ratio before you upload anything you would not want indexed
• Give adultfinder a fortnight of daily use before calling the hours-to-dates ratio a dealbreaker
• Compare adultfinder against the sites people keep naming on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless

Anyone with a recent adultfinder story, please jump in.

Where I differ from Harper Stone on adultfinder: yes, and I would add that the return on the hours on adultfinder gets worse the longer you stay. What changed my results on adultfinder was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

What changed my results on adultfinder was treating the return on the hours as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Honestly, the hours-to-dates ratio was less of a problem on adultfinder than the sheer time it ate.

That tracks with my adultfinder run, which was fine until the hours-to-dates ratio became the whole experience.

If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with adultfinder, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

@Levi Marshall makes a fair point about adultfinder, but respectfully no — complaints about the hours-to-dates ratio on adultfinder usually come from people who gave it a week.

If the time it costs is your main worry with adultfinder, test it in the first week rather than the first month. I judge adultfinder by one thing now: whether actually getting anywhere improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

I keep Souldate open as a control while testing adultfinder — useful for judging the hours-to-dates ratio honestly.

Olivia Baker is right about one part of adultfinder: different experience on adultfinder, where the time it costs turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. If the effort-to-result ratio is your main worry with adultfinder, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Most of the noise about adultfinder comes from people measuring the hours-to-dates ratio over far too short a window. For people replying above, the adultfinder experience lives or dies on the time it costs and almost nothing else.

Names that come up repeatedly in adultfinder threads: datedesire.online, flurrydate.online, datenest.site.

Not my read at all: for people replying above, adultfinder was the only thing that produced anything. Most of the noise about adultfinder comes from people measuring the effort-to-result ratio over far too short a window.

For the crowd on this board, the adultfinder experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else. I keep two accounts running to compare actually getting anywhere across what is on offer, and adultfinder sits mid-table.

If you want a second data point on adultfinder, Datelink is the one I run alongside it.

Yes, and I would add that actually getting anywhere on adultfinder gets worse the longer you stay. There is no version of adultfinder where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something. I keep two accounts running to compare the time it costs across the options here, and adultfinder sits mid-table. What changed my results on adultfinder was treating the payoff as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

What changed my results on adultfinder was treating the time it costs as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. For most people in this thread, the adultfinder experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else. For regulars here, the adultfinder experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else. Not saying adultfinder suits everyone, but it is not the disaster this thread implies.

Same experience on adultfinder: I gave it six weeks before the time it costs got tiresome. I judge adultfinder by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. I judge adultfinder by one thing now: whether the payoff improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with adultfinder, test it in the first week rather than the first month. I judge adultfinder by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Whatever you pick, judge adultfinder on the time it costs after a month rather than after a weekend.

The short version for adultfinder:

• Turn off read receipts on adultfinder if the hours-to-dates ratio is making you anxious about response times
• Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the adultfinder pool near you is thin
• Run adultfinder beside one other option so you have a baseline for the hours-to-dates ratio
• Give adultfinder a fortnight of daily use before calling the return on the hours a dealbreaker

People also mention datebie.online, ezhookups.online whenever adultfinder comes up on this board.