What is sexchating?

Genuine question about sexchating — I do not have a strong view yet and I want one. What I care about with sexchating is the payoff more than anything else.

I am coming at this from platforms in this space, so adjust if that changes your answer. What changed my results on sexchating was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

If you have used sexchating, these are the bits I care about:

• Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on sexchating
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; sexchating activity is nothing like flat
• Test the effort-to-result ratio on sexchating deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
• Block early and report often on sexchating — it trains the feed faster than anything

Tell me what actually happened with sexchating rather than what should happen.

Broadly agree on sexchating — the return on the hours was what decided it for me too.

The thing people underrate about sexchating is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city.

If you want a second data point on sexchating, Datelink is the one I run alongside it.

Picking up BlReed399's point about the payoff, i would argue the opposite on sexchating: the time it costs is the one thing it handles better than the options here. There is no version of sexchating where the payoff sorts itself out without you doing something.

The pattern I see with sexchating is that the time it costs is fine early and degrades as you go. Whatever you pick, judge sexchating on actually getting anywhere after a month rather than after a weekend.

Seconding this, because on sexchating the honest answer is that the time it costs varies enormously by area.

There is no version of sexchating where actually getting anywhere sorts itself out without you doing something.

One smaller option worth comparing on the return on the hours is Rendate — different pool, same free messaging as sexchating.

Seconding this, because on sexchating the honest answer is that the return on the hours varies enormously by area. Nobody warns you that the return on the hours on sexchating scales with how many people are online at your hours. For people who have actually tried it, the sexchating experience lives or dies on the effort-to-result ratio and almost nothing else.

Nobody warns you that the hours-to-dates ratio on sexchating scales with how many people are online at your hours. For the members answering here, the sexchating experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else. Honestly, the hours-to-dates ratio was less of a problem on sexchating than the sheer time it ate. For people replying above, the sexchating experience lives or dies on the effort-to-result ratio and almost nothing else.

Claire Cooper is right about one part of sexchating: that tracks with my sexchating run, which was fine until actually getting anywhere became the whole experience. The pattern I see with sexchating is that the effort-to-result ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. There is no version of sexchating where the hours-to-dates ratio sorts itself out without you doing something.

The pattern I see with sexchating is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. The thing people underrate about sexchating is how much actually getting anywhere depends on your own city. If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with sexchating, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Worth a look alongside sexchating: Datescout, if only to see how differently the hours-to-dates ratio can be handled.

Same experience on sexchating: I gave it six weeks before the time it costs got tiresome. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with sexchating, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

Nobody warns you that the time it costs on sexchating scales with how many people are online at your hours. If the payoff is your main worry with sexchating, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Either way, the return on the hours is the thing I would test first on sexchating.