What is the best internet dating site for people in their 40s?

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XanderM
Joined: Jul 2021
Messages: 663
#1

I want to be wrong about the best internet dating site for people in their 40s, so tell me if I am. My problem with internet dating site so far has been the return on the hours.

Assume I know nothing beyond the obvious about no-payment dating sites. For people who have actually tried it, the internet dating site experience lives or dies on the time it costs and almost nothing else.

Concretely, for internet dating site:

  • Message within a day of matching — on internet dating site that window closes fast
  • Give internet dating site a fortnight of daily use before calling the hours-to-dates ratio a dealbreaker
  • Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the internet dating site pool near you is thin
  • Check what internet dating site does about the hours-to-dates ratio before you upload anything you would not want indexed
  • Do not move off internet dating site into private messaging until actually getting anywhere looks handled

Blunt answers on the best internet dating site for people in their 40s preferred over polite ones.

AshleyC
Joined: Jul 2023
Messages: 727
#2

I will push back here, because internet dating site worked fine for me and the payoff was never the issue. I judge internet dating site by one thing now: whether the time it costs improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

What changed my results on internet dating site was treating the payoff as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. For most of us posting here, the internet dating site experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else.

Garrett_K
Joined: Jan 2022
Messages: 625
#3

Building on what AshleyC said about internet dating site, reading this back, my internet dating site notes say almost the same thing about actually getting anywhere. I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across free dating apps, and internet dating site sits mid-table.

The pattern I see with internet dating site is that the hours-to-dates ratio is fine early and degrades as you go. Nobody warns you that the return on the hours on internet dating site scales with how many people are online at your hours. The thing people underrate about internet dating site is how much the payoff depends on your own city.

Felix Grant
Joined: Jul 2023
Messages: 1192
#4

Building on what Garrett_K said about internet dating site, that feels too harsh on internet dating site, given actually getting anywhere is a problem across no-payment dating sites rather than specific to it.

I keep two accounts running to compare the effort-to-result ratio across the free-tier sites, and internet dating site sits mid-table. For people who have actually tried it, the internet dating site experience lives or dies on actually getting anywhere and almost nothing else.

Rachel Cruz
Joined: Dec 2022
Messages: 335
#5

I read Felix Grant's reply on internet dating site and that feels too harsh on internet dating site, given the return on the hours is a problem across the free end of the market rather than specific to it.

I keep two accounts running to compare the effort-to-result ratio across free dating apps, and internet dating site sits mid-table.

I have seen turndate.site, datelink.online recommended for internet dating site, though I have not tested them properly.

Ryan84
Joined: Oct 2022
Messages: 519
#6

Picking up Rachel Cruz's point about the hours-to-dates ratio, that feels too harsh on internet dating site, given the time it costs is a problem across the free-tier sites rather than specific to it. For regulars here, the internet dating site experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else.

If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with internet dating site, test it in the first week rather than the first month. You can work around the return on the hours on internet dating site, but you have to be deliberate about it.

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Troy Vance
Joined: Jul 2021
Messages: 622
#7

Seconding this, because on internet dating site the honest answer is that the hours-to-dates ratio varies enormously by area. The pattern I see with internet dating site is that the time it costs is fine early and degrades as you go.

I judge internet dating site by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. Whatever you pick, judge internet dating site on the effort-to-result ratio after a month rather than after a weekend.

People also mention ezhookups.online, souldate.site, datebound.site whenever internet dating site comes up on this board.

Ethan Parker
Joined: Mar 2021
Messages: 332
#8

Same experience on internet dating site: I gave it six weeks before actually getting anywhere got tiresome. What changed my results on internet dating site was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

If the payoff is your main worry with internet dating site, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Honestly, the return on the hours was less of a problem on internet dating site than the sheer time it ate. For the crowd on this board, the internet dating site experience lives or dies on the hours-to-dates ratio and almost nothing else.

Grant_88
Joined: Apr 2024
Messages: 660
#9

Not my read at all: for most of us posting here, internet dating site was the only thing that produced anything. Honestly, the effort-to-result ratio was less of a problem on internet dating site than the sheer time it ate.

Nobody warns you that the payoff on internet dating site scales with how many people are online at your hours. Your internet dating site results will vary by city more than by platform.

RobbieQ
Joined: Dec 2022
Messages: 1042
#10

I would argue the opposite on internet dating site: the time it costs is the one thing it handles better than the free-tier sites. If the time it costs is your main worry with internet dating site, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

I judge internet dating site by one thing now: whether actually getting anywhere improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. For most people in this thread, the internet dating site experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else.

Somebody in another internet dating site thread pointed me at Datebie and it held up better than expected on the return on the hours.

LaurenP
Joined: Apr 2022
Messages: 259
#11

Same experience on internet dating site: I gave it six weeks before the payoff got tiresome.

What changed my results on internet dating site was treating the time it costs as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Whatever you pick, judge internet dating site on actually getting anywhere after a month rather than after a weekend.

BradleyM
Joined: Jul 2021
Messages: 514
#12

Disagree, because blaming actually getting anywhere lets you off the hook — my internet dating site results improved when my profile did.

I judge internet dating site by one thing now: whether the hours-to-dates ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with internet dating site, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

The other one I would try before giving up on internet dating site is Datewander.

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