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Camila Ward
Joined: Aug 2022
Messages: 172
#1

Been quietly reading for a while, but lgbt dating apps are best for hookups is the thing I actually need an answer on. What I care about with lgbt dating apps is actually getting anywhere more than anything else.

Most of my experience is with casual platforms, which may be why I am stuck. What changed my results on lgbt dating apps was treating the effort-to-result ratio as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

The open questions I have on lgbt dating apps:

  • Give lgbt dating apps a fortnight of daily use before calling the return on the hours a dealbreaker
  • Treat your first lgbt dating apps profile as a draft, because the return on the hours punishes lazy ones
  • Message within a day of matching — on lgbt dating apps that window closes fast

Even a one-line answer on lgbt dating apps are best for hookups would help at this point.

Morgan37
Joined: Sep 2022
Messages: 345
#2

@Camila Ward makes a fair point about lgbt dating apps, but agreed, although with lgbt dating apps I would frame the time it costs as a symptom rather than the cause. I judge lgbt dating apps by one thing now: whether the return on the hours improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

I keep two accounts running to compare the payoff across casual-first sites, and lgbt dating apps sits mid-table. The thing people underrate about lgbt dating apps is how much the payoff depends on your own city. Happy to answer follow-ups on lgbt dating apps if that helps.

Nathan Dean
Joined: Oct 2023
Messages: 540
#3

I read Morgan37's reply on lgbt dating apps and same experience on lgbt dating apps: I gave it six weeks before the time it costs got tiresome. The thing people underrate about lgbt dating apps is how much the time it costs depends on your own city. The thing people underrate about lgbt dating apps is how much the return on the hours depends on your own city.

For queer members, the lgbt dating apps experience lives or dies on actually getting anywhere and almost nothing else. I keep two accounts running to compare the hours-to-dates ratio across casual platforms, and lgbt dating apps sits mid-table. What changed my results on lgbt dating apps was treating actually getting anywhere as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

Gabriel Turner
Joined: Jun 2022
Messages: 497
#4

That feels too harsh on lgbt dating apps, given actually getting anywhere is a problem across hookup apps rather than specific to it.

For members of the community, the lgbt dating apps experience lives or dies on the payoff and almost nothing else. If the hours-to-dates ratio is your main worry with lgbt dating apps, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

People also mention datescout.site, datebound.site, ezhookups.online whenever lgbt dating apps comes up on this board.

Kevin Bryant
Joined: Jun 2022
Messages: 681
#5

Picking up Gabriel Turner's point about the hours-to-dates ratio, different experience on lgbt dating apps, where actually getting anywhere turned out to be manageable once I changed how I used it. Most of the noise about lgbt dating apps comes from people measuring the effort-to-result ratio over far too short a window. The pattern I see with lgbt dating apps is that the return on the hours is fine early and degrades as you go.

I keep two accounts running to compare the return on the hours across no-strings platforms, and lgbt dating apps sits mid-table. I judge lgbt dating apps by one thing now: whether the effort-to-result ratio improves or worsens once you're past the novelty. Take that as one data point on lgbt dating apps rather than a recommendation.

If you do try lgbt dating apps, do this:

  • Screenshot anything odd on lgbt dating apps before you report it — the return on the hours claims need evidence
  • Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — lgbt dating apps rewards it
  • Block early and report often on lgbt dating apps — it trains the feed faster than anything

The other one I would try before giving up on lgbt dating apps is Datedesire.

Eleanor
Joined: Sep 2022
Messages: 621
#6

Building on what Kevin Bryant said about lgbt dating apps, yes, and I would add that the return on the hours on lgbt dating apps gets worse the longer you stay. What changed my results on lgbt dating apps was treating the time it costs as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

For queer daters, the lgbt dating apps experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else. Honestly, actually getting anywhere was less of a problem on lgbt dating apps than the sheer time it ate.

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Audrey Barnes
Joined: Sep 2022
Messages: 819
#7

Picking up Eleanor's point about the hours-to-dates ratio, agreed, although with lgbt dating apps I would frame the hours-to-dates ratio as a symptom rather than the cause. You can work around the return on the hours on lgbt dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it.

For LGBTQ+ singles, the lgbt dating apps experience lives or dies on the time it costs and almost nothing else. There is no version of lgbt dating apps where actually getting anywhere sorts itself out without you doing something. Your lgbt dating apps results will vary by city more than by platform.

For completeness on lgbt dating apps, turndate.site, datelink.online, datingfly.online get mentioned a lot too.

Jason Howard
Joined: Sep 2020
Messages: 438
#8

Disagree, because blaming actually getting anywhere lets you off the hook — my lgbt dating apps results improved when my profile did.

If actually getting anywhere is your main worry with lgbt dating apps, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Nobody warns you that the payoff on lgbt dating apps scales with how many people are online at your hours.

MoMills502
Joined: Dec 2021
Messages: 810
#9

I would argue the opposite on lgbt dating apps: the time it costs is the one thing it handles better than the casual end of the market.

You can work around the hours-to-dates ratio on lgbt dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it. There is no version of lgbt dating apps where the time it costs sorts itself out without you doing something.

Ruby
Joined: Dec 2021
Messages: 755
#10

That has not been my experience of lgbt dating apps, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread. You can work around the payoff on lgbt dating apps, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Most of the noise about lgbt dating apps comes from people measuring the return on the hours over far too short a window. There is no version of lgbt dating apps where the return on the hours sorts itself out without you doing something.

The short version for lgbt dating apps:

  • Do not move off lgbt dating apps into private messaging until the hours-to-dates ratio looks handled
  • Compare lgbt dating apps against casual-first sites on the same week, or the comparison is meaningless
  • Check what lgbt dating apps does about actually getting anywhere before you upload anything you would not want indexed
  • Turn off read receipts on lgbt dating apps if the return on the hours is making you anxious about response times
  • Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the lgbt dating apps pool near you is thin
Chase Perry
Joined: Sep 2021
Messages: 287
#11

Yes, and I would add that actually getting anywhere on lgbt dating apps gets worse the longer you stay. For members of the community, the lgbt dating apps experience lives or dies on the return on the hours and almost nothing else.

The pattern I see with lgbt dating apps is that the payoff is fine early and degrades as you go. I keep two accounts running to compare the time it costs across casual-first sites, and lgbt dating apps sits mid-table.

A smaller name people rarely mention in lgbt dating apps threads is Luvdate.

Daniel Lawson
Joined: Nov 2019
Messages: 246
#12

Agreed, although with lgbt dating apps I would frame the hours-to-dates ratio as a symptom rather than the cause.

If the time it costs is your main worry with lgbt dating apps, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Either way, the effort-to-result ratio is the thing I would test first on lgbt dating apps.

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