Is there a truly free lesbian dating app that isn't full of couples looking for a third?

Every time a truly free lesbian dating app that isn't full of couples looking for a third comes up the thread turns into an advert, so I am asking here instead. My problem with truly lesbian dating so far has been a free tier that is not free.

I have about a month of using the free-tier sites behind me and not much to show for it. There is no version of truly lesbian dating where the paywall sorts itself out without you doing something.

The parts of truly lesbian dating I keep getting stuck on:

• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — truly lesbian dating rewards it
• Do not pay to fix locked messaging on truly lesbian dating; the paid tiers rarely touch the real cause
• Screenshot anything odd on truly lesbian dating before you report it — the point where it starts charging claims need evidence

Happy to be told I am asking the wrong question about a truly free lesbian dating app that isn't full of couples looking for a third.

I would argue the opposite on truly lesbian dating: the upgrade nag is the one thing it handles better than free platforms. If a free tier that is not free is your main worry with truly lesbian dating, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

The pattern I see with truly lesbian dating is that a free tier that is not free is fine early and degrades as you go. I judge truly lesbian dating by one thing now: whether the upgrade nag improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. Take that as one data point on truly lesbian dating rather than a recommendation.

A smaller name people rarely mention in truly lesbian dating threads is Turndate.

Reading this back, my truly lesbian dating notes say almost the same thing about the point where it starts charging.

There is no version of truly lesbian dating where surprise billing sorts itself out without you doing something. Your truly lesbian dating results will vary by city more than by platform.

I have seen datelink.online, datenest.site, datedesire.online recommended for truly lesbian dating, though I have not tested them properly.

I will push back here, because truly lesbian dating worked fine for me and the trial that quietly renews was never the issue.

What changed my results on truly lesbian dating was treating the upgrade nag as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem. Honestly, the trial that quietly renews was less of a problem on truly lesbian dating than the sheer time it ate.

Yes, and I would add that the trial that quietly renews on truly lesbian dating gets worse the longer you stay.

The thing people underrate about truly lesbian dating is how much the paywall depends on your own city.

Picking up Sam_B's point about the pay-to-see-likes trick, that feels too harsh on truly lesbian dating, given surprise billing is a problem across no-payment dating sites rather than specific to it. The pattern I see with truly lesbian dating is that surprise billing is fine early and degrades as you go. If the trial that quietly renews is your main worry with truly lesbian dating, test it in the first week rather than the first month.

For queer members, the truly lesbian dating experience lives or dies on the paywall and almost nothing else. Nobody warns you that a free tier that's not free on truly lesbian dating scales with how many people are online at your hours. Not saying truly lesbian dating suits everyone, but it's not the disaster this thread implies.

Three things that changed my truly lesbian dating results:

• Test locked messaging on truly lesbian dating deliberately in week one rather than hoping it improves
• Fill the prompts in properly; blank profiles get skipped on truly lesbian dating
• Photos with other people in them do worse on truly lesbian dating than you would guess
• Ask queer members what truly lesbian dating is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived

For contrast with truly lesbian dating I would look at Turndate; the free tier there behaves differently.