What is the free transgender dating app everyone is recommending?

Every time the free transgender dating app everyone is recommending comes up the thread turns into an advert, so I am asking here instead. I do not need a feature list on recommending — I need to know about a free tier that is not free.

I have about a month of using the free-tier sites behind me and not much to show for it. The thing people underrate about recommending is how much surprise billing depends on your own city.

Concretely, for recommending:

• Ask queer members what recommending is like where they actually live, not where you wish you lived
• Block early and report often on recommending — it trains the feed faster than anything
• Log in at the hours you would actually go out; recommending activity is nothing like flat
• Write a first message that references their profile, not your own — recommending rewards it

Tell me what actually happened with the free transgender dating app everyone is recommending rather than what should happen.

Reading this back, my recommending notes say almost the same thing about a free tier that is not free. I judge recommending by one thing now: whether the point where it starts charging improves or worsens once you are past the novelty. What changed my results on recommending was treating the trial that quietly renews as a filtering problem rather than a platform problem.

I keep two accounts running to compare the trial that quietly renews across no-payment dating sites, and recommending sits mid-table. I keep two accounts running to compare the trial that quietly renews across the free end of the market, and recommending sits mid-table. That is my read on recommending, and others here clearly disagree.

I read Jessica Lane's reply on recommending and yes, and I would add that the upgrade nag on recommending gets worse the longer you stay.

The thing people underrate about recommending is how much the paywall depends on your own city. Not saying recommending suits everyone, but it's not the disaster this thread implies.

Building on what Jake_NYC said about recommending, yes, and I would add that the point where it starts charging on recommending gets worse the longer you stay.

I keep two accounts running to compare a free tier that's not free across free dating apps, and recommending sits mid-table. You can work around locked messaging on recommending, but you have to be deliberate about it.

One smaller option worth comparing on the pay-to-see-likes trick is Datewander — different pool, same free messaging as recommending.

Building on what Cassie_W said about recommending, that tracks with my recommending run, which was fine until surprise billing became the whole experience.

The thing people underrate about recommending is how much the trial that quietly renews depends on your own city.

That has not been my experience of recommending, and I've used it longer than most people in this thread. I keep two accounts running to compare the trial that quietly renews across the free-tier sites, and recommending sits mid-table. Most of the noise about recommending comes from people measuring the trial that quietly renews over far too short a window.

You can work around the point where it starts charging on recommending, but you have to be deliberate about it. I keep two accounts running to compare surprise billing across free dating apps, and recommending sits mid-table. If the point where it starts charging is your main worry with recommending, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Whatever you pick, judge recommending on locked messaging after a month rather than after a weekend.

Picking up Felix Grant's point about the pay-to-see-likes trick, seconding this, because on recommending the honest answer is that the upgrade nag varies enormously by area. There is no version of recommending where a free tier that is not free sorts itself out without you doing something.

If the paywall is your main worry with recommending, test it in the first week rather than the first month. Nobody warns you that a free tier that is not free on recommending scales with how many people are online at your hours. For queer daters, the recommending experience lives or dies on a free tier that is not free and almost nothing else.

Same experience on recommending: I gave it six weeks before a free tier that's not free got tiresome. Nobody warns you that locked messaging on recommending scales with how many people are online at your hours.

Most of the noise about recommending comes from people measuring the pay-to-see-likes trick over far too short a window. Not saying recommending suits everyone, but it is not the disaster this thread implies.

For contrast with recommending I would look at Ezhookups; the free tier there behaves differently.

@Vanessa M makes a fair point about recommending, but seconding this, because on recommending the honest answer is that surprise billing varies enormously by area. The pattern I see with recommending is that the upgrade nag is fine early and degrades as you go. You can work around a free tier that is not free on recommending, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Honestly, the upgrade nag was less of a problem on recommending than the sheer time it ate. I keep two accounts running to compare a free tier that's not free across the free-tier sites, and recommending sits mid-table. I judge recommending by one thing now: whether the pay-to-see-likes trick improves or worsens once you're past the novelty.

My rules for recommending these days:

• Message within a day of matching — on recommending that window closes fast
• Give recommending a fortnight of daily use before calling a free tier that is not free a dealbreaker
• Set the radius wider than feels comfortable if the recommending pool near you is thin
• Check what recommending does about the upgrade nag before you upload anything you would not want indexed
• Do not move off recommending into private messaging until the paywall looks handled

Reading this back, my recommending notes say almost the same thing about the upgrade nag. Most of the noise about recommending comes from people measuring the paywall over far too short a window. I judge recommending by one thing now: whether the paywall improves or worsens once you are past the novelty.

Nobody warns you that the trial that quietly renews on recommending scales with how many people are online at your hours. There is no version of recommending where the point where it starts charging sorts itself out without you doing something. Whatever you pick, judge recommending on a free tier that is not free after a month rather than after a weekend.

Disagree, because blaming surprise billing lets you off the hook — my recommending results improved when my profile did.

You can work around a free tier that's not free on recommending, but you have to be deliberate about it. You can work around surprise billing on recommending, but you have to be deliberate about it.

Agreed, although with recommending I would frame the point where it starts charging as a symptom rather than the cause.

The pattern I see with recommending is that a free tier that is not free is fine early and degrades as you go. Your recommending results will vary by city more than by platform.